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For Elizabeth Young, pandemic restrictions mean a new Christmas reality of not seeing her parents 害羞草研究所� something many B.C. residents will experience this year.

What makes it particularly difficult, however, for the Courtenay resident is that her father, who lives in Victoria, has just finished cancer treatments and can害羞草研究所檛 talk on the phone very well. She害羞草研究所檚 taking a step back navigating the new reality of what the holidays will look like this year, but also accepting what the change will bring.

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Young had the opportunity to visit her family before the provincial travel restrictions were put into place, and she害羞草研究所檚 looking forward to heading to the south Island for a visit once restrictions are lifted.

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For those at some of the B.C.害羞草研究所檚 care homes, the holidays will be focused on finding and creating joy within. Jolene Shaw, community relations manager at Berwick Comox Valley Retirement Community admitted while the year has been difficult, their team is making the best of the situation for their residents.

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To make Christmas at the Berwick extra special, Shaw explained they are planning to take their residents to Hawaii - or rather - to bring Hawaii to them.

They creating plane tickets and are planning a celebration on Dec. 17 alongside 害羞草研究所榝light attendants害羞草研究所� who will meet residents at the dining room and will offer them a small snack and drink once everyone has gone through 害羞草研究所榝light safety protocol.害羞草研究所� An 害羞草研究所榠nflight害羞草研究所� Hawaiian meal alongside hula entertainment will follow, and Santa will join at the conclusion of the meal.

At another care home, Glacier View Lodge, designated visitors are allowed through their COVID-19 protocols, but visits are done in a careful way, noted Liz Friis, director of resident lifestyle and community programs. While activities in past years such as choir and musical performances can害羞草研究所檛 happen in the same way, staff are finding ways to make events work. Various groups are set to sing outside the lodge while staying socially distant and keeping to their respective bubbles.

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The new reality restricting gathering and travel combined with the usual stress of the holidays is making the loss of traditional celebrations 害羞草研究所渞eally tangible and undeniable害羞草研究所� explained Caroline Bradfield, a registered clinical counsellor with Comox Valley Counselling.

She said the reduced connections to other people along with the lack of traditional rituals and ceremonies this year is adding to a growing sense of overall loss. It害羞草研究所檚 an emotion our culture has a tendency to move past quickly without spending time processing.

害羞草研究所淲e have a way of dismissing our own pain and losses; we minimize and ignore it. When we think about humans coping and our stress, humans cope in a couple of different ways. We either over-react and make ourselves too busy or we under-react and isolate and check-out.害羞草研究所�

She said humans love to problem solve, and while it is an amazing characteristic, it can also lead to trouble as not all problems are solvable, such as some grief, loss or change.

Sometimes the best way to work through the emotion is to find 害羞草研究所渟omeone there in our corner害羞草研究所� who will truly listen, validate feelings and empathize.

害羞草研究所淚f we can listen, and be there with them and not try to fix the losses is a huge part of healing for healing in solidarity. Understanding validates feelings, and it makes us not feel so alone. Loneliness is so crushing; it puts us in a place of helplessness and hopelessness and humans don害羞草研究所檛 do well in that realm.

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Looking for places to turn for help? Call the BC Mental Health Support Line (no area code needed): 310-6789; it害羞草研究所檚 free and available 24 hours a day. The Suicide Hotline is available if you are in distress or worried about someone else; it is free and available 24 hours a day: 1-800-784-2433.

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