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Not why #MeToo was trending. While the reasons differed a little for each of the participating women I love and respect, they were adding their commentary to an impressive effort aimed at raising awareness and driving the bogeymen out from their respective memories.

It was hard, however, to not wonder why we are still expecting women to raise awareness and identify themselves as victims and survivors rather than asking men who are predators to identify themselves as a problem that needs to be sorted out. Or, at the very least, asking their enablers to get this under control.

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Women already know it exists. That knowledge is why the 20-something in my office travels around with dog spray in her purse.

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And lest we forget, there are countless women who die each year, falling victim to violence at home.

We are aware. We are all aware.

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