Pink Shirt Day, which falls on Feb. 28 this year, is an annual event against bullying that champions kindness and respect.

It also serves as a reminder that bullying can occur at any age and have lasting impacts that last well into adulthood.

Marlie Philp, a registered therapeutic counsellor with Alight Counselling in Victoria, finds that many of her adult clients who have experienced bullying often feel highly insecure in their adult relationships and experience pronounced lasting effects.

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Bullying is a form of aggression where there is a power imbalance and leads to the person with lesser power being victimized, according to Pink Shirt Day.

It can be physical, verbal, social (ignoring or excluding someone, spreading rumours), or online (cyberbullying).

While conversations around bullying often focus on bullying between children in the school setting, it may be overlooked that it can occur to adults, particularly in the workplace.

Thirty-seven per cent of workers reported being bullied in the workplace, according to a 2007 study by the Workplace Bullying Institute. The majority of offenders (72 per cent) were bosses and the most common victims were women in their 40s. A majority of targets (77 per cent) stopped the bullying by leaving or losing their jobs, despite being the ones harmed.

Workplace bullying can take many forms including humiliation, rumour spreading, withholding resources (such as time, budget and training), false accusations, and undermining targets behind closed doors, said Canada Safety Council (CSC).

To get the most effective help, people experiencing bullying at their jobs should document all instances in detail, and then make a plan to resolve the bullying, CSC suggests. This might involve seeking assistance from management, getting legal advice and soliciting witness statements.

WorkSafeBC also compensates for mental disorders caused by significant workplace stressors, which now include bullying or harassment.

Adult bullying can also happen outside of the workplace, and includes behaviours such as spreading malicious, false rumours; turning social alliances against a target by painting a negative picture of them; excluding; mocking; and claiming credit for the work of the target, said Richa Bhatia M.D. from Psychology Today.

Healing bullying wounds as an adult

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Without a safe place to unpack, deconstruct, and reframe these experiences, people who have been bullied may internalize painful, self-referential beliefs, she said. These beliefs can lead to deep insecurities that manifest in a variety of self-protective behaviours later on in adult relationships leading to further disconnection or isolation.

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